I’m ready to be a wife to the man of my dreams

November 10, 2015

I’ve been married for more than 35 years by the grace of God. The one thing I can share with you is this: the man of your dreams is created, not found. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but in case you need a friendly reminder, because we all do: there is no perfect man. There are simply two imperfect people who come together to create new possibilities each and every day. It takes two to make a marriage work. Similar to the way anything else in this world. It takes the sun and the moon to create day and night. It takes a bee and a flower to create honey. It takes a man and a woman to create a baby. Everyone has a role. We must understand our roles and the things that we must do in our roles.

A wise woman once told me that husbands are like the head of the body and wives are the neck. In order for the head to move, the neck needs to be functioning. What does this mean for us as women? This sheds light on the type of power we possess. We are able to use this power to speak and create our dreams into reality. It just doesn’t show up.

There are many things to consider in the role of the wife. I’ll share my top three. First, be submissive. Ephesians 5:22-24 begins, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord..” (NIV). The secret to this entire verse is this line. It reminds us that our submission is not about our dream husbands, but about our Lord. Our husbands are imperfect, but our Lord is perfect. So whenever you feel like giving up because of their mess ups, remember it’s bigger than the problem.
When you learn the power of submission, then being your husband’s number one fan becomes easy. That is my second secret; cheer him on always. Hebrews 4:12-13 emphasizes the power of the word of God. What you speak about your husband is a reflection of how you honor the Lord. It’s important to only speak life to your relationship. Rather than killing the possibilities of living your dream, you can create it through language.

Lastly, pray for him. When you are able to love him, thank him, and pray for him, you’re able to allow the word of the Lord work through him. Your prayer touches areas that you in the physical cannot. Your spiritual relationship is the biggest weapon against any demonic attacks toward your relationship/marriage.

There are many more things to consider, but these top three has
For more on how to define true love, read the 10 Commandments of a Wife written by Bishop E. Bernard Jordan.