Self-Respect Gets You Respect from Others

You must have self-respect in order to earn respect from others. Some people will say, “follow your heart”, when it comes to a relationship. But God’s word tells us not to trust our heart because it is deceitful. Rather, we have to guard it. Most of the time when we trust our heart, we forget to respect ourselves. Especially when emotions and affections start. Our heart influences our actions.

He went on: “It’s what comes out of a person that pollutes: obscenities, lusts, thefts, murders, adulteries, greed, depravity, deceptive dealings, carousing, mean looks, slander, arrogance, foolishness — all these are vomit from the heart. There is the source of your pollution.” -(Mark 7:21, MSG)

Guard our hearts from ungodly emotions, motives and actions. And as we have self-control within us, we will be able to respect ourselves. And as we respect ourselves, we will know how to treat our bodies right before our God. We will preserve our virginity until the right time appointed by God.

Self-Respect in the Form of Honoring God with your Body

Keep God’s word in your heart. This is the best way to keep our way pure. Let’s honor God with our bodies. God is telling us not to allow even a hint of sexual immorality and impurity. With that great motivation, it will make us respect our bodies the way God wants. Always go back to the basics – the word of God.

Sad to say that many people today involve themselves to pre-marital sex. They do it and put their lives to risks. According to some studies, those who engage in premarital sex may experience the risk of many venereal diseases, as well as losing their fertility, AIDS and other common disfiguring diseases like herpes (which has no cure).

If you still have some respect for your body, would you want to have these kinds of sicknesses? Respect yourself. You deserve more than this. God has greater things in store for your life. It’s not about touching fire and testing that we will not get burned.

Understand your Worth

What do you think your worth is? Your worth is for the King of kings to die on the cross for you. You are that important to Him. Your worth is far more than gold or any jewels you may find. Know your deeper value. Do you think you deserve to be happy or not? Do you deserve to suffer from a heart filled with scars or not? You deserve the best.

Once you lose your virginity outside marriage, you are creating soul ties with the person you have engaged sex with. And when you break up. It will create a scar that will break not just your heart but also your character.

Later, when you find your spouse and go to bed with him/her the scar in your heart may affect you and your spouse in your romance. But still, we have a God of wonders. Aside from that, He can heal our hearts.

He can also give us a new one. We don’t know how God will do it to those who lost their virginity. But if you haven’t given up that yet, then you are still blessed to experience the opportunity to experience the best in its time. I encourage you to wait. True love waits.

Do Not Conform

God says in His word that we should not be conformed to the patterns of this world. Don’t mind the people teasing you about your virginity. Don’t be deceived by the lies of you being weak. The more you wait, the more it means you are strong because you are able to stand to your convictions even if it’s so hard.

I want to share a story. There was a girl who was being teased always by her friends about her virginity. They laughed at her and mock her because she is still a virgin. Until one day came that she cannot stand their teasing anymore she went to her friends. And she told them, “You know what? Anytime I want, I can be like you. But anytime you want, you can’t be like me!” Whew! That’s an inspiring story to remember. Isn’t it?

Questions to Ask Yourself

How do you guard your heart? Are you ready to face the consequence of giving your virginity out of marriage bonds?What are some practical steps you may do to respect your body?

Know Your Identity

It is essential to discover your identity because it helps you set your standards. How do you see yourself? Most of the men and women who have lost their virginity before marriage are victims of peer pressure, broken families, influence of the people that surround them and who experienced rejection. But what is really your identity? Where do you get your identity? Where do you secure yourself?

God says anyone who accepts Christ in his/her life has the right to become His child. You are a child of God. And that is your identity. He is your Father. He loves you so much. And He wants you to have the best. God’s plan for you is to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future. His word never fails. The only way to know how much God values us as His child is to know His word. Read the Bible when you have time.

Men and women were created according to God’s image. We reflect some of His attributes. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by Him. Always remind yourself of your value in God’s eyes. He made you unique and one of a kind. And He gave you special gifts such as your virginity to enjoy sex inside His standard – your marriage. He wants you to experience the best sex in your life with the person who will marry you. God knows best.

You Are Accepted

Your virginity matters to God because you are His child. For God so loved us, He gave His one and only Son to redeem our relationship with Him. Imagine the One who created the universe, the stars in the sky and everything you see around you, gave up His life to win back His people.

Imagine how He longs for a relationship with you. That is how valuable you are in His sight. If one of your reasons why you gave up your virginity in the wrong season is because you want to feel accepted by people or by the person you love, remind yourself that you are accepted already by the King of kings.

God Loves You for Your Identity

When you satisfy yourself with the love God offers, you will be fully convinced that giving up your virginity is not the way to be accepted by someone. You are already loved and accepted. You do not need to earn His love. He loves you before you were formed in the womb of your mother. And He has promised us that He loves us with an everlasting love. It never changes through time. His love is forever.

God desires to have a deeper relationship with you. He is concerned in every detail of your life – even in your sex life. He wants you to experience the joy and the delight of sex with your partner who is serious in marrying you and being with you for the rest of your lives.

You will really have a hard time to get what I am saying here if you haven’t experienced the love of God in your life. Let yourself experience His love first. It is a choice. And when you have fully known this well, you will value your virginity and how God, who loves you so much, values you.


Find time to pray and seek God to reveal His love for you. Take time to read your Bible to discover the magnitude of God’s love. Look at the mirror. See yourself and confess to yourself your value in God’s eyes. Declare, “I am valuable!”