Category: Woman of God

Dealing With Trials

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How do you handle difficult trials?

We all have our own unique way of dealing with trials; but as children of God, we are taught and shown a way that provides the best outcome for us.

The Bible says that when Job was struck with painful boils, his wife told him to give up on his faith and turn his back on God. 

 

So Satan went out from the presence of the Lord, and struck Job with painful boils from the sole of his foot to the crown of his head. And he took for himself a potsherd with which to scrape himself while he sat in the midst of the ashes.

Then his wife said to him, “Do you still hold fast to your integrity? Curse God and die!”

-Job 2:7-9 (NKJV)

Job had boils and sores all over his body that were not only hideous and unsightly, but they were also quite painful. Now, if you were in his shoes, how would you deal with this difficult and dreadful trial?

Job’s wife dealt with this trial in anger; but Job chose to deal with this trial in FAITH.

 

But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women speaks. Shall we indeed accept good from God, and shall we not accept adversity?” In all this Job did not sin with his lips.

–Job 2:10 (NKJV)

 

 

Like Job, we must endure trials in such a way that glorifies God. 

When dealing with trials, most people forget to see the bigger picture. Sometimes, the trials we face are part of God’s greater plan. It may be a way for Him to get you to your next level. 

God has the best plans laid out for you. When trials come, you must endure it with faith and trust in the Father. You must learn to see your trials as pieces that fit into God’s perfect plan for your life. It is through trials that our faith is truly manifested. 

  

 

Pursue Purity and Holiness

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How do you value your purity?…

It is said in the word of God that blessed are those who are pure in heart, for they will see God. Anyone who fears God will desire to have a pure heart. As we long for more of God in our lives, we desire more to be changed and become the person whom He wants us to be – pure and holy in His sight.

It is important to have convictions about purity. Ask and seek God’s way of being pure. Let God mold your heart and make it pure before Him. Lay down to Him all your selfish desires and allow the Holy Spirit to work in your heart. God Himself will help you and show you the convictions you need to set in your life. And ask His grace to help you go through with your convictions.

God’s Word Helps You Keep Your Purity

Convictions will surely be based on His word. God’s word is one of our foundations in our walk with God. We will never easily give up our virginity if we based our foundation and conviction to God’s word. And when we have clear convictions and values, keeping pure will not be extremely difficult because our clear conviction will enable us to draw the line and when to say no to ungodly actions.

The best way to keep our hearts pure and not give up our virginity easily is by reading God’s word. Take time to read. A chapter a day will help you know God better and His standards. And you will get a lot of instruction, rebuke, corrections and encouragement that will motivate you and help you keep your life pure, holy and pleasing in the eyes of God. The more you read God’s word, the more you will be wise with your actions. The Bible has always been a good standard.

Pursue Righteousness

When you set the right boundaries and convictions, prepare yourself in pursuing righteousness. It is through Christ we become righteous in the eyes of God. It is only He and by Him, we can be right. Submission to the Lordship of Christ will make us understand the importance of pursuing righteousness.

Doing what is right is not easy. In the heat of our desires, we need more than what we know about sexual purity. To stand strong against sin, we must be fully convinced and captivated that God’s ways are the greatest pleasure. We must agree with God about the goodness of pure sex within marriage. And this requires purposeful effort before you walk down the aisle.

True love also plans. You plan how to secure your future spouse that you are worth the wait and that there is beauty in waiting for marriage before you have sex.

God’s Heart

Within marriage, God celebrates pure sex. God delights to see us enjoy sex at its right time. The marriage bed is more than just satisfying our natural desires and urges, but a place where we can take delight in the beauty of those drives. God delights to make us so for our enjoyment and His glory.

On Marrying The Man God Made for You

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God has His will when it comes to marrying. Whether you like it or not, there will be someone who will choose to marry you and spend the rest of his/her life with you in His time. It is in the place of obedience you can find God’s blessings.

As you trust God to wait on Him, I am sure God has prepared your partner to be the best for you. Maybe not perfect but the best for you. As you go about the truth that God loves you and He will give you the best, have you also thought that God loves your partner the same as He loves you? God also wants the best for your partner.

Be A Blessing to the One You’re Marrying

Your spouse deserves the best. One of the problems why people easily give their virginity (especially women) is because they don’t know exactly what their partner, who will marry them, deserves. If you will set your eyes on the moment you will marry that someone who really loves you and who will really fight for you, you would know that the person deserves your best. Yes, the one you love who will truly commit to you in marriage deserves the best from you.

Your virginity is a very precious thing that you may give to your spouse. Take care of it. Reserve it for your spouse. Set your eyes on that kind of response and not on your own temporary selfish desires. Satan knows exactly what is good. And he’s working 24 hours, seven days a week to steal the good things God is blessing you with.

He is serious with His work. We always pray for God’s best in our lives. But have we prayed and asked God to make us the best person for our spouse? Are we preparing to be an answer to our spouse’s prayer? So if you think your spouse deserves it, don’t lose virginity in a thoughtless way.

Your Spouse Deserves the Best

Do you believe that your spouse deserves the best and not what is remained? If you love to have sex during your singleness, would you tell your spouse all the names of men/women who have slept with you? Whenever you have visitors coming to your house, what do you serve them? You serve them the best menu you have in your house. Or maybe you will even prepare and cook for them.

You will not serve them leftovers on the day of their visit. Right? What about the person who will fight for you, who will wait for you and decide to be with you for the rest of his/her life? Doesn’t he deserve to have what is best and not the leftover? Our spouse deserves to enjoy the best sex God offers. If we will set our minds that our spouse deserves the best, it will be a great motivation to keep our virginity before marriage.

Some Thoughts About Marrying

Do you want to serve your virginity as a precious gift to your spouse? Give time to pray for yourself to be a blessing to your future spouse. In what ways do you consider yourself a blessing to your future spouse?

Have Accountability Over Your Body

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Having accountability doesn’t only mean struggling alone because we often need someone we can talk to. Let’s admit it, we can’t always thrive in life alone.  It’s best that you have a person you can be accountable to. You need someone to talk to. Someone you are not afraid to approach but at the same time may have authority over you. Look for someone you can fully trust and whom you can say exactly the things you are struggling with.

Talk to someone you are comfortable to share what is needed to share. Your accountability to that person doesn’t mean you need to say all the details of your life. Identify what are the things necessary to tell to that person so that he/she may help you to overcome such struggle.

Talk to Someone Who Fears God

Make sure that you are talking to a person who fears God. This is important because wisdom comes from those who fear God. And that is what we need – wise counsel. Also, you may be accountable not just to one. It can be more than one person as long as you know that this person is someone you can trust and has a relationship with God.

A person who has a relationship with God will push you to pursue purity and holiness. He/she will pray with you, correct you and rebuke you if needed. Your accountability partner will help you to mirror yourself. He/she will tell you what you really need to hear because he/she cares for you.

Know Your Company

The Bible says that bad company destroys your character. If you ask for prayer, advice, help, and counsel; a bad company may not help you with it. Therefore, if you want to be strong and make your convictions intact, surround yourself with people who have a relationship with God.

You can never go wrong with having people who love God around you. It’s one of the best decisions that you could ever make. They will help you to stand still and wait. They will encourage you to preserve your virginity until it’s the right time.

You may also ask Christian people who had mistakes in losing their virginity before marriage. You may learn a lot from them. And they may encourage you more with the difference of giving up your virginity in the bonds of marriage. This will help you not to do the same mistake as they did.

Learn to Listen

Those people whom we are accountable to will not just listen to our cries and concerns. But they will also speak on their behalf. And as they tell us what we need to hear, we should learn how to listen.

It will be good for us to let go of our egos and pride from things we may hear. We need to understand that God sends them to help us walk to glorify Him.

These people’s concern is for us to experience the best things that God has in store for us. If we will trust them, they will help us to stand in our convictions by encouraging us and praying for us.

Doesn’t it feel good that you know there are people who care for you, pray for and encourage you?

Some Thoughts to Ponder Over

Have you looked for a Christian man/woman whom you can be accountable to? Are you still dealing with trust? What do you do about it? If you already have your accountability partner, how does he/she help you now?

Know Your Identity

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It is essential to discover your identity because it helps you set your standards. How do you see yourself? Most of the men and women who have lost their virginity before marriage are victims of peer pressure, broken families, influence of the people that surround them and who experienced rejection. But what is really your identity? Where do you get your identity? Where do you secure yourself?

God says anyone who accepts Christ in his/her life has the right to become His child. You are a child of God. And that is your identity. He is your Father. He loves you so much. And He wants you to have the best. God’s plan for you is to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future. His word never fails. The only way to know how much God values us as His child is to know His word. Read the Bible when you have time.

Men and women were created according to God’s image. We reflect some of His attributes. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by Him. Always remind yourself of your value in God’s eyes. He made you unique and one of a kind. And He gave you special gifts such as your virginity to enjoy sex inside His standard – your marriage. He wants you to experience the best sex in your life with the person who will marry you. God knows best.

You Are Accepted

Your virginity matters to God because you are His child. For God so loved us, He gave His one and only Son to redeem our relationship with Him. Imagine the One who created the universe, the stars in the sky and everything you see around you, gave up His life to win back His people.

Imagine how He longs for a relationship with you. That is how valuable you are in His sight. If one of your reasons why you gave up your virginity in the wrong season is because you want to feel accepted by people or by the person you love, remind yourself that you are accepted already by the King of kings.

God Loves You for Your Identity

When you satisfy yourself with the love God offers, you will be fully convinced that giving up your virginity is not the way to be accepted by someone. You are already loved and accepted. You do not need to earn His love. He loves you before you were formed in the womb of your mother. And He has promised us that He loves us with an everlasting love. It never changes through time. His love is forever.

God desires to have a deeper relationship with you. He is concerned in every detail of your life – even in your sex life. He wants you to experience the joy and the delight of sex with your partner who is serious in marrying you and being with you for the rest of your lives.

You will really have a hard time to get what I am saying here if you haven’t experienced the love of God in your life. Let yourself experience His love first. It is a choice. And when you have fully known this well, you will value your virginity and how God, who loves you so much, values you.

Self-Empowerment

Find time to pray and seek God to reveal His love for you. Take time to read your Bible to discover the magnitude of God’s love. Look at the mirror. See yourself and confess to yourself your value in God’s eyes. Declare, “I am valuable!”

Preserve Your Virginity

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Preserving your virginity is not only a form of self-love and self-respect, but it is also a way of pleasing God.  Teenagers and adults today are greatly influenced by the media. Most of the time, they offer a different standard of sex. Some practice the “collect-and-select” process to check whom they are compatible with.

Some are just affected by what they see and hear from other people and they do sex just for the fun or experience of it. Sad to say, some do it out of marriage, regardless of whatever the life-long effect or possible consequences it may bring them. But don’t settle for something temporary. You deserve much more.

Set Your Standard

God’s standard is much more different than the world. God made sex to be enjoyed by His creation. He designed it beautifully inside marriage. And your virginity matters before our God. If you are the person who felt like you have lost it already, I am telling you it’s not too late. Virginity is much more than the physical. It also involves mental, spiritual and emotional aspects.

You may regain your virginity. Yes! You may. God says, “Anyone who is in Christ is a new creation. The old has gone and the new has come.”  If you have decided to accept Christ in your life and believe that in your heart, then you are a new person. You can start again with a new life. And as you start now, let’s do some rearrangement of your standards. Not any more of the world’s, but of the Lord’s standards.

Remember, when you are in Christ now, you are turning away from your old self and turning to Him. That means you are no longer a slave of your own desires because you have surrendered yourself to the Lordship of Christ.

Therefore, you may ask the Lord what standards He wants you to set for yourself. But I believe that God’s standard for sex is to be inside the bond of marriage.

The Importance of God’s Standard

People settle for what is available and temporary because they don’t have boundaries for themselves. Even in having sex. Having a set of standards gives you restraint and focus. If you stand for something, you won’t fall for anything. What do you really want? Ask yourself.

Do you really want to lose your virginity outside marriage? Think of the possible consequences that you may face. Again, sex is a gift from God. When not used properly, it may destroy you and the people who are important to you.

Sex, when not used according to God’s standard, may affect not just your relationship with other people, but even your lifestyle. There was a study about young people who engaged in premarital sex. It was observed in the study that it declined their academic performance and destroyed their relationship with their family and friends.

Is that what you think God wants for you? Did God promise to harm you? No. God wants us to enjoy our relationship with Him and with other people. That is why He is serious in telling us to obey Him because He knows fully well the consequences of our sins. Going outside of God’s standards will hurt us. Set your standard in alignment with God’s and it will help you to experience the goodness of sex in His time. Start making a stand now.