How Important is Virginity to you?

Men and women nowadays who have sex regularly are bothered and concerned with pregnancy. If you value your virginity, you won’t think of this possible consequence that you, your partner, your family and other people around you will be affected. You won’t worry about finances, emotional needs and other concern that you need to consider when this thing happened.

And because of no other obligations, you may enjoy your time with your family and friends. You may still continue to enjoy the season of being independent.

Free from any Sickness and Disease

Purity is healthy. If you are a virgin, you are free from any sexually transmitted disease such as HIV / AIDS, herpes, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea. Don’t you think that it feels so good that you are free from any sickness that may bring to you by having sex to anyone outside marriage? You are not just protecting yourself from the disease but also your future spouse and children. It will be an honor to see your spouse and kids healthy. A reward that is priceless.

Preserving your Virginity Frees You from Emotional Trauma

If you are a virgin, you have protected yourself from pains, trauma, shame, heartache, and guilt. You are free from the bondage. Those bondages may not help you enjoy your relationship with your spouse on your marriage. Being a virgin will make your self-esteem high and have your own self-pride.

Being a virgin gives you freedom from any insecurity. It gives you such confidence of your value and worth. Knowing that you have not made any soul ties to anyone, you will be free enjoying the relationship you will have with your spouse.

Happy Marriage

I believe it is everybody’s dream to be happily married. And when you obey God, to wait in His time and preserve your virginity until marriage, you are securing yourself the place of God’s blessings. God intends for you to be happy in marriage. As you obey and honor Him, He will never fail to bless you in your marriage life. And when He blesses something, He doesn’t add any trouble to it. 1 Believe and have faith.

Most of the women feel very special when they know that their men would wait for them. And most men prefer to marry a virgin. Imagine if you two waited and trusted God for His time to do sex inside marriage. Imagine yourself, giving your all and your best to that someone who deserves the gift of virginity. No ties and unpleasant memories in your mind. It will only be you and your spouse. That will be so beautiful.

Thoughts to Ponder to Over

Is your virginity important to you? Do you want to be happy with your sex life in your marriage? Are you willing to take the risk to experience emotional trauma? Why or why not?

Pursue Purity and Holiness

How do you value your purity?…

It is said in the word of God that blessed are those who are pure in heart, for they will see God. Anyone who fears God will desire to have a pure heart. As we long for more of God in our lives, we desire more to be changed and become the person whom He wants us to be – pure and holy in His sight.

It is important to have convictions about purity. Ask and seek God’s way of being pure. Let God mold your heart and make it pure before Him. Lay down to Him all your selfish desires and allow the Holy Spirit to work in your heart. God Himself will help you and show you the convictions you need to set in your life. And ask His grace to help you go through with your convictions.

God’s Word Helps You Keep Your Purity

Convictions will surely be based on His word. God’s word is one of our foundations in our walk with God. We will never easily give up our virginity if we based our foundation and conviction to God’s word. And when we have clear convictions and values, keeping pure will not be extremely difficult because our clear conviction will enable us to draw the line and when to say no to ungodly actions.

The best way to keep our hearts pure and not give up our virginity easily is by reading God’s word. Take time to read. A chapter a day will help you know God better and His standards. And you will get a lot of instruction, rebuke, corrections and encouragement that will motivate you and help you keep your life pure, holy and pleasing in the eyes of God. The more you read God’s word, the more you will be wise with your actions. The Bible has always been a good standard.

Pursue Righteousness

When you set the right boundaries and convictions, prepare yourself in pursuing righteousness. It is through Christ we become righteous in the eyes of God. It is only He and by Him, we can be right. Submission to the Lordship of Christ will make us understand the importance of pursuing righteousness.

Doing what is right is not easy. In the heat of our desires, we need more than what we know about sexual purity. To stand strong against sin, we must be fully convinced and captivated that God’s ways are the greatest pleasure. We must agree with God about the goodness of pure sex within marriage. And this requires purposeful effort before you walk down the aisle.

True love also plans. You plan how to secure your future spouse that you are worth the wait and that there is beauty in waiting for marriage before you have sex.

God’s Heart

Within marriage, God celebrates pure sex. God delights to see us enjoy sex at its right time. The marriage bed is more than just satisfying our natural desires and urges, but a place where we can take delight in the beauty of those drives. God delights to make us so for our enjoyment and His glory.

Ask Yourself – Is It The Right Time?

We are responsible for our actions. Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. Are you ready for the consequences of your actions? What if an accident happens and you get pregnant? Are you ready for the responsibility of being a mom? Are you prepared emotionally, physically, financially, mentally and spiritually? When you think of these, these questions may warn you to wait for the right time – your marriage.

Indeed, God has made everything beautiful in its time. We need to trust His word. We need not to lose hope in His promises. The Maker knows our very purpose.

The Right Time

The right time according to the word of God is when you get married. Sex should happen inside marriage. Not outside marriage. This is the standard of God. It is a sin against God and against you to do sex outside marriage as it written in 1 Corinthians 6:17, “Flee fornicating. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

It is God’s desires for us to have a successful marriage. He has given us His standards. And it is our choice if we will follow and obey His word. Indeed, it will always be a choice. Always remember that it is all about His time and not ours.

There is always a right time for everything. Be patient and obey the standard of God’s timing. There will be a reward at the end of the process. We have a faithful God who is true to His word. Learn to trust His timing.

Respond in obedience

Let’s not be a slave of our selfish desires. The greatest enemy that we could ever have is ourselves. There will be moments where we will need to choose between our bodies crave and the instruction of God. God says, there must never be a hint of sexual immorality. Whether it is just kissing for you or any seemingly innocent, the internal struggle is the same.

God desires for His children to respond in obedience. We have the freedom of choices. But we don’t have the freedom of consequences. God is the source of wisdom. He knows very well what is good from what is not. He is expert in knowing what may hurt us from what is not. Have you seen a parent who loves a child so much and gives instruction to jump on a cliff? Would you think a parent who loves his/her child would do that? What more our God? Our God’s greatest pleasure is to enjoy the fullness of life. Jesus came to save us to live our lives to the full. And if there is the best person to follow, it’s Jesus our Lord.

Ask yourself, is this really the right time? Is this the time where I have the blessings of God? Is everything around you gives you peace of mind and assurance? The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Even if you feel it is so right but you know that it’s not the right time according to God’s standards, then think first before you end up losing your virginity.

Be Content While You Wait for the Right Time

Enjoy your season. Be content with what you have now. Be grateful to what is given to you for now. Anyone who is faithful with little will be blessed with much.

Fill yourself with God’s love. It’s the best way to experience contentment and satisfaction. When we start to secure our lives with the word of God, it will serve as our weapon every time we are weak with our own desires.

On Marrying The Man God Made for You

God has His will when it comes to marrying. Whether you like it or not, there will be someone who will choose to marry you and spend the rest of his/her life with you in His time. It is in the place of obedience you can find God’s blessings.

As you trust God to wait on Him, I am sure God has prepared your partner to be the best for you. Maybe not perfect but the best for you. As you go about the truth that God loves you and He will give you the best, have you also thought that God loves your partner the same as He loves you? God also wants the best for your partner.

Be A Blessing to the One You’re Marrying

Your spouse deserves the best. One of the problems why people easily give their virginity (especially women) is because they don’t know exactly what their partner, who will marry them, deserves. If you will set your eyes on the moment you will marry that someone who really loves you and who will really fight for you, you would know that the person deserves your best. Yes, the one you love who will truly commit to you in marriage deserves the best from you.

Your virginity is a very precious thing that you may give to your spouse. Take care of it. Reserve it for your spouse. Set your eyes on that kind of response and not on your own temporary selfish desires. Satan knows exactly what is good. And he’s working 24 hours, seven days a week to steal the good things God is blessing you with.

He is serious with His work. We always pray for God’s best in our lives. But have we prayed and asked God to make us the best person for our spouse? Are we preparing to be an answer to our spouse’s prayer? So if you think your spouse deserves it, don’t lose virginity in a thoughtless way.

Your Spouse Deserves the Best

Do you believe that your spouse deserves the best and not what is remained? If you love to have sex during your singleness, would you tell your spouse all the names of men/women who have slept with you? Whenever you have visitors coming to your house, what do you serve them? You serve them the best menu you have in your house. Or maybe you will even prepare and cook for them.

You will not serve them leftovers on the day of their visit. Right? What about the person who will fight for you, who will wait for you and decide to be with you for the rest of his/her life? Doesn’t he deserve to have what is best and not the leftover? Our spouse deserves to enjoy the best sex God offers. If we will set our minds that our spouse deserves the best, it will be a great motivation to keep our virginity before marriage.

Some Thoughts About Marrying

Do you want to serve your virginity as a precious gift to your spouse? Give time to pray for yourself to be a blessing to your future spouse. In what ways do you consider yourself a blessing to your future spouse?

Self-Respect Gets You Respect from Others

You must have self-respect in order to earn respect from others. Some people will say, “follow your heart”, when it comes to a relationship. But God’s word tells us not to trust our heart because it is deceitful. Rather, we have to guard it. Most of the time when we trust our heart, we forget to respect ourselves. Especially when emotions and affections start. Our heart influences our actions.

He went on: “It’s what comes out of a person that pollutes: obscenities, lusts, thefts, murders, adulteries, greed, depravity, deceptive dealings, carousing, mean looks, slander, arrogance, foolishness — all these are vomit from the heart. There is the source of your pollution.” -(Mark 7:21, MSG)

Guard our hearts from ungodly emotions, motives and actions. And as we have self-control within us, we will be able to respect ourselves. And as we respect ourselves, we will know how to treat our bodies right before our God. We will preserve our virginity until the right time appointed by God.

Self-Respect in the Form of Honoring God with your Body

Keep God’s word in your heart. This is the best way to keep our way pure. Let’s honor God with our bodies. God is telling us not to allow even a hint of sexual immorality and impurity. With that great motivation, it will make us respect our bodies the way God wants. Always go back to the basics – the word of God.

Sad to say that many people today involve themselves to pre-marital sex. They do it and put their lives to risks. According to some studies, those who engage in premarital sex may experience the risk of many venereal diseases, as well as losing their fertility, AIDS and other common disfiguring diseases like herpes (which has no cure).

If you still have some respect for your body, would you want to have these kinds of sicknesses? Respect yourself. You deserve more than this. God has greater things in store for your life. It’s not about touching fire and testing that we will not get burned.

Understand your Worth

What do you think your worth is? Your worth is for the King of kings to die on the cross for you. You are that important to Him. Your worth is far more than gold or any jewels you may find. Know your deeper value. Do you think you deserve to be happy or not? Do you deserve to suffer from a heart filled with scars or not? You deserve the best.

Once you lose your virginity outside marriage, you are creating soul ties with the person you have engaged sex with. And when you break up. It will create a scar that will break not just your heart but also your character.

Later, when you find your spouse and go to bed with him/her the scar in your heart may affect you and your spouse in your romance. But still, we have a God of wonders. Aside from that, He can heal our hearts.

He can also give us a new one. We don’t know how God will do it to those who lost their virginity. But if you haven’t given up that yet, then you are still blessed to experience the opportunity to experience the best in its time. I encourage you to wait. True love waits.

Do Not Conform

God says in His word that we should not be conformed to the patterns of this world. Don’t mind the people teasing you about your virginity. Don’t be deceived by the lies of you being weak. The more you wait, the more it means you are strong because you are able to stand to your convictions even if it’s so hard.

I want to share a story. There was a girl who was being teased always by her friends about her virginity. They laughed at her and mock her because she is still a virgin. Until one day came that she cannot stand their teasing anymore she went to her friends. And she told them, “You know what? Anytime I want, I can be like you. But anytime you want, you can’t be like me!” Whew! That’s an inspiring story to remember. Isn’t it?

Questions to Ask Yourself

How do you guard your heart? Are you ready to face the consequence of giving your virginity out of marriage bonds?What are some practical steps you may do to respect your body?

Why Waiting Is A Virtue

Waiting is one virtue that we all have to learn to receive what God planned for us…

What season does God bring you to? It is important to know the season you are in now. If you’re in the season of singlehood and not ready for marriage, learn to wait. I know that it’s hard to wait. It takes self-control. But one thing we should always remind ourselves is to not depend on our own strength because we may fail. But with God’s strength, we become overcomers.

It takes humility to ask God to give us the grace in waiting (believe me, His grace works). Good things happen to those who wait. Nothing can compare to the joy and fulfillment for those who wait.

Know Your Priorities While Waiting

When you don’t know your priority in this season, you will end up confused to where you are going because you don’t know exactly what you need to prioritize. Set your priorities while waiting. What does God want you to do in this season?

I believe one of those is for you to enjoy your relationship with your family and friends. Our time on Earth is limited. And while God is giving you and opportunity to spend time with your family and friends, do it. It is something we will enjoy anyway. This will help you set your focus on the right track.

True Love Waits!

Indeed, true love waits! If you are in a relationship now and your partner truly loves you, then he/she will respect you to wait until it is the right time. Hold on to your virginity. Man, take the lead. If you really love the woman, you will not initiate or influence her to lose her virginity. You will act in faith, trust, and love.

Be the man God called you to be. Woman, guard the heart of your man. One of their greatest struggles is lust. So, be careful how you carry yourself. We need to help our man in guarding their hearts. If you love your partner, you will preserve his/her virginity until the time of marriage. And both of you will surely enjoy it.

It’s All Worth It

God says everything is beautiful in His time. Have you ever tried to eat a strawberry that is not yet ripe? How does it taste? Yes, you may eat it. But it tastes best when it is ripe. Have you ever tried wearing a sweater on a sunny day? Will you be comfortable with that? Everything has its time. All we need to do is wait on God and trust God that He knows best. Do what God is asking you to do in this season of waiting. And when the harvest comes, you will surely enjoy the fruits of your labor. It’s worth the wait.

Know Your Identity

It is essential to discover your identity because it helps you set your standards. How do you see yourself? Most of the men and women who have lost their virginity before marriage are victims of peer pressure, broken families, influence of the people that surround them and who experienced rejection. But what is really your identity? Where do you get your identity? Where do you secure yourself?

God says anyone who accepts Christ in his/her life has the right to become His child. You are a child of God. And that is your identity. He is your Father. He loves you so much. And He wants you to have the best. God’s plan for you is to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you hope and a future. His word never fails. The only way to know how much God values us as His child is to know His word. Read the Bible when you have time.

Men and women were created according to God’s image. We reflect some of His attributes. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by Him. Always remind yourself of your value in God’s eyes. He made you unique and one of a kind. And He gave you special gifts such as your virginity to enjoy sex inside His standard – your marriage. He wants you to experience the best sex in your life with the person who will marry you. God knows best.

You Are Accepted

Your virginity matters to God because you are His child. For God so loved us, He gave His one and only Son to redeem our relationship with Him. Imagine the One who created the universe, the stars in the sky and everything you see around you, gave up His life to win back His people.

Imagine how He longs for a relationship with you. That is how valuable you are in His sight. If one of your reasons why you gave up your virginity in the wrong season is because you want to feel accepted by people or by the person you love, remind yourself that you are accepted already by the King of kings.

God Loves You for Your Identity

When you satisfy yourself with the love God offers, you will be fully convinced that giving up your virginity is not the way to be accepted by someone. You are already loved and accepted. You do not need to earn His love. He loves you before you were formed in the womb of your mother. And He has promised us that He loves us with an everlasting love. It never changes through time. His love is forever.

God desires to have a deeper relationship with you. He is concerned in every detail of your life – even in your sex life. He wants you to experience the joy and the delight of sex with your partner who is serious in marrying you and being with you for the rest of your lives.

You will really have a hard time to get what I am saying here if you haven’t experienced the love of God in your life. Let yourself experience His love first. It is a choice. And when you have fully known this well, you will value your virginity and how God, who loves you so much, values you.

Self-Empowerment

Find time to pray and seek God to reveal His love for you. Take time to read your Bible to discover the magnitude of God’s love. Look at the mirror. See yourself and confess to yourself your value in God’s eyes. Declare, “I am valuable!”

Preserve Your Virginity

Preserving your virginity is not only a form of self-love and self-respect, but it is also a way of pleasing God.  Teenagers and adults today are greatly influenced by the media. Most of the time, they offer a different standard of sex. Some practice the “collect-and-select” process to check whom they are compatible with.

Some are just affected by what they see and hear from other people and they do sex just for the fun or experience of it. Sad to say, some do it out of marriage, regardless of whatever the life-long effect or possible consequences it may bring them. But don’t settle for something temporary. You deserve much more.

Set Your Standard

God’s standard is much more different than the world. God made sex to be enjoyed by His creation. He designed it beautifully inside marriage. And your virginity matters before our God. If you are the person who felt like you have lost it already, I am telling you it’s not too late. Virginity is much more than the physical. It also involves mental, spiritual and emotional aspects.

You may regain your virginity. Yes! You may. God says, “Anyone who is in Christ is a new creation. The old has gone and the new has come.”  If you have decided to accept Christ in your life and believe that in your heart, then you are a new person. You can start again with a new life. And as you start now, let’s do some rearrangement of your standards. Not any more of the world’s, but of the Lord’s standards.

Remember, when you are in Christ now, you are turning away from your old self and turning to Him. That means you are no longer a slave of your own desires because you have surrendered yourself to the Lordship of Christ.

Therefore, you may ask the Lord what standards He wants you to set for yourself. But I believe that God’s standard for sex is to be inside the bond of marriage.

The Importance of God’s Standard

People settle for what is available and temporary because they don’t have boundaries for themselves. Even in having sex. Having a set of standards gives you restraint and focus. If you stand for something, you won’t fall for anything. What do you really want? Ask yourself.

Do you really want to lose your virginity outside marriage? Think of the possible consequences that you may face. Again, sex is a gift from God. When not used properly, it may destroy you and the people who are important to you.

Sex, when not used according to God’s standard, may affect not just your relationship with other people, but even your lifestyle. There was a study about young people who engaged in premarital sex. It was observed in the study that it declined their academic performance and destroyed their relationship with their family and friends.

Is that what you think God wants for you? Did God promise to harm you? No. God wants us to enjoy our relationship with Him and with other people. That is why He is serious in telling us to obey Him because He knows fully well the consequences of our sins. Going outside of God’s standards will hurt us. Set your standard in alignment with God’s and it will help you to experience the goodness of sex in His time. Start making a stand now.

Relationship Matters: Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband

One of the most important relationship matters is showing respect to each other as husband and wife. As a wife, this comes in the form of speaking appropriately to your husband. Remember, your words draw your husband either near or far from you.

Respect Is One Among Many Relationship Matters to Work On

“Let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33

Did you know that there are husbands who would choose respect over love? This isn’t really surprising, considering that men have deep, innate need for respect. On the other hand, us, women, have a strong need for love. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs who is the author of the book Love and Respect backs these up.

According to him, a wife who feels unloved will act disrespectfully toward her husband. In return, a husband who feels disrespected will act unlovingly toward his wife. This is a cycle that can go on if one will not put down his or her pride.

Perhaps, you may ask, “Isn’t respect earned?” While this holds true in life, the Bible is very particular with God’s commandment on wives respecting their husbands. In 1 Peter 3, the Bible says, “Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.”

Another verse is the Ephesians 5:33,  where Apostle Paul writes, “Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

How You Can Show Respect to Your Husband

There are many ways to show respect to your husband. These include:

1. Speaking highly of him

Never belittle your husband in front of your friends, family, or colleagues. This will make him feel incapable and incompetent. Instead, practice speaking highly of him. Highlight his good qualities so other people in your circle will respect him too.

2. Giving him encouraging words

Be the wind beneath his sails. As his wife, you are his first and greatest source of hope and motivation. By trusting his leadership skills and abilities, you are encouraging him to do more. Phrases like “I trust you”, “I believe in you”, “You can do it”, etc. are somewhat synonymous to “I love you”. Appreciation also goes a long way, so always remember to say “Thank you” to your husband.

3. Serving him

Actions speak louder than words and this is also true when it comes to respecting your husband. Besides uttering words that show respect, you can also back it up with acts of love. Service can be in the form of making meals for him, arranging his things for work, etc.

4. Allowing God to be the enforcer

There will be many instances when you will have opposing opinions. While you are free to speak your mind, remember that you cannot change your husband’s viewpoint. You cannot also change his decisions on certain matters. When this happens, let God move his hands into your marriage. Pray for your husband so that he will hear your thoughts and decide wisely.

Respecting Your Husband Shows Your Respect to God

When you show respect to your husband no matter what his shortcomings are, you are also showing respect to God. You are living a life that is pleasing to Him. You are following His commandments to wives like you, and this is something that will ensure peace and love in your marriage.

Marriage Tips: The Value of Appreciation

One of the best marriage tips that I can give is to realize the value of appreciation in the relationship. Unfortunately, we get too busy with our lives that we fail to appreciate what other people do for us. The same is the case with our spouse. We get so used to each other’s presence and often take for granted the small acts of love that our spouse does. Believe me, this is not a good relationship habit…

Marriage Tips: Acknowledge the Missing Element In Your Relationship

We all have needs and wants. I am definitely certain that as a wife, you also desire appreciation from your husband. Whether you are a housewife or a career woman, you get more inspired to do what you do when showered with appreciation. However, “proximity breeds apathy”, they say. As we spend more time with each other, we become less and less appreciative. We often lose sight of the best that we have and forget to appreciate the most important person in our lives.

This is a temptation we all face and a season we all go through. As life makes us busy, we fail to communicate with our spouse and see the good in them. We oversee the contributions of the other in making our lives together better. While we all feel guilty about it, this should not be a permanent thing in marriage. So, what should you do? Whether you are the one who desires for appreciation or the one who needs to give it more, be the bigger person to acknowledge the absence of it in your relationship.

Marriage Tips: How to Cultivate Appreciation for Each Other

As a wife and a mother, we keep our family knitted together. It is part of our responsibilities to ensure a healthy home for everyone. And it starts with being good examples when it comes to cultivating a culture of appreciation. Now, how do we create a loving and appreciative marriage that our kids would want to follow someday? The answer is fairly simple – let us be the first to be generous in giving consistent, genuine appreciation to our spouse.

There are many simple ways to show appreciation to our spouse, which include:

Empathizing with them

Does it seem like your spouse had a bad day at work? Ask them about their day without being too pushy. And as you do, hand them over their slippers and changing clothes and offer water or coffee. This will make them feel that you care about their feelings.

Listening to them

Listening is an integral aspect of any relationship. During times when you have different views and opinions, take time to listen to your spouse. It is not always necessary to argue and prove your point. Most of the time, all you have to do is listen to each other and make a sound decision later.

Forgiving them

A lasting marriage is about forgiving each other all the time. You are both human and you both commit mistakes and shortcomings. Forgiveness surely is an act of love and appreciation.

Saying thank you often

No matter how little or how big your spouse’s effort is, always remember to say thank you. It means a lot for the other.

Enjoying their company

What better way to show your appreciation than in action? When your spouse sees that you enjoy their company and appreciate what they do, they become more motivated and inspired. You’ll be surprised to see them do the things that make you happy more often.

Serving them

Service is definitely another sure sign of appreciation. It is like a subtle way of saying thank you for their hard work and love.

Marriage Tips: Appreciation Is A Vital Aspect of Marriage

Appreciation is like a fairy dust in marriage. It makes the relationship even more beautiful and more meaningful. Now, if you’re becoming more critical of your spouse instead of being more appreciative, seek God’s intervention. Ask Him to show you the things that seem invisible to you. Remember, appreciation is one important aspect that builds up your marriage. Express your gratefulness to your spouse often and you’ll witness how a simple “thank you” goes a long way.