How Important is Virginity to you?

Men and women nowadays who have sex regularly are bothered and concerned with pregnancy. If you value your virginity, you won’t think of this possible consequence that you, your partner, your family and other people around you will be affected. You won’t worry about finances, emotional needs and other concern that you need to consider when this thing happened.

And because of no other obligations, you may enjoy your time with your family and friends. You may still continue to enjoy the season of being independent.

Free from any Sickness and Disease

Purity is healthy. If you are a virgin, you are free from any sexually transmitted disease such as HIV / AIDS, herpes, genital warts, syphilis, and gonorrhea. Don’t you think that it feels so good that you are free from any sickness that may bring to you by having sex to anyone outside marriage? You are not just protecting yourself from the disease but also your future spouse and children. It will be an honor to see your spouse and kids healthy. A reward that is priceless.

Preserving your Virginity Frees You from Emotional Trauma

If you are a virgin, you have protected yourself from pains, trauma, shame, heartache, and guilt. You are free from the bondage. Those bondages may not help you enjoy your relationship with your spouse on your marriage. Being a virgin will make your self-esteem high and have your own self-pride.

Being a virgin gives you freedom from any insecurity. It gives you such confidence of your value and worth. Knowing that you have not made any soul ties to anyone, you will be free enjoying the relationship you will have with your spouse.

Happy Marriage

I believe it is everybody’s dream to be happily married. And when you obey God, to wait in His time and preserve your virginity until marriage, you are securing yourself the place of God’s blessings. God intends for you to be happy in marriage. As you obey and honor Him, He will never fail to bless you in your marriage life. And when He blesses something, He doesn’t add any trouble to it. 1 Believe and have faith.

Most of the women feel very special when they know that their men would wait for them. And most men prefer to marry a virgin. Imagine if you two waited and trusted God for His time to do sex inside marriage. Imagine yourself, giving your all and your best to that someone who deserves the gift of virginity. No ties and unpleasant memories in your mind. It will only be you and your spouse. That will be so beautiful.

Thoughts to Ponder to Over

Is your virginity important to you? Do you want to be happy with your sex life in your marriage? Are you willing to take the risk to experience emotional trauma? Why or why not?

Pursue Purity and Holiness

How do you value your purity?…

It is said in the word of God that blessed are those who are pure in heart, for they will see God. Anyone who fears God will desire to have a pure heart. As we long for more of God in our lives, we desire more to be changed and become the person whom He wants us to be – pure and holy in His sight.

It is important to have convictions about purity. Ask and seek God’s way of being pure. Let God mold your heart and make it pure before Him. Lay down to Him all your selfish desires and allow the Holy Spirit to work in your heart. God Himself will help you and show you the convictions you need to set in your life. And ask His grace to help you go through with your convictions.

God’s Word Helps You Keep Your Purity

Convictions will surely be based on His word. God’s word is one of our foundations in our walk with God. We will never easily give up our virginity if we based our foundation and conviction to God’s word. And when we have clear convictions and values, keeping pure will not be extremely difficult because our clear conviction will enable us to draw the line and when to say no to ungodly actions.

The best way to keep our hearts pure and not give up our virginity easily is by reading God’s word. Take time to read. A chapter a day will help you know God better and His standards. And you will get a lot of instruction, rebuke, corrections and encouragement that will motivate you and help you keep your life pure, holy and pleasing in the eyes of God. The more you read God’s word, the more you will be wise with your actions. The Bible has always been a good standard.

Pursue Righteousness

When you set the right boundaries and convictions, prepare yourself in pursuing righteousness. It is through Christ we become righteous in the eyes of God. It is only He and by Him, we can be right. Submission to the Lordship of Christ will make us understand the importance of pursuing righteousness.

Doing what is right is not easy. In the heat of our desires, we need more than what we know about sexual purity. To stand strong against sin, we must be fully convinced and captivated that God’s ways are the greatest pleasure. We must agree with God about the goodness of pure sex within marriage. And this requires purposeful effort before you walk down the aisle.

True love also plans. You plan how to secure your future spouse that you are worth the wait and that there is beauty in waiting for marriage before you have sex.

God’s Heart

Within marriage, God celebrates pure sex. God delights to see us enjoy sex at its right time. The marriage bed is more than just satisfying our natural desires and urges, but a place where we can take delight in the beauty of those drives. God delights to make us so for our enjoyment and His glory.

Ask Yourself – Is It The Right Time?

We are responsible for our actions. Everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial. Are you ready for the consequences of your actions? What if an accident happens and you get pregnant? Are you ready for the responsibility of being a mom? Are you prepared emotionally, physically, financially, mentally and spiritually? When you think of these, these questions may warn you to wait for the right time – your marriage.

Indeed, God has made everything beautiful in its time. We need to trust His word. We need not to lose hope in His promises. The Maker knows our very purpose.

The Right Time

The right time according to the word of God is when you get married. Sex should happen inside marriage. Not outside marriage. This is the standard of God. It is a sin against God and against you to do sex outside marriage as it written in 1 Corinthians 6:17, “Flee fornicating. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

It is God’s desires for us to have a successful marriage. He has given us His standards. And it is our choice if we will follow and obey His word. Indeed, it will always be a choice. Always remember that it is all about His time and not ours.

There is always a right time for everything. Be patient and obey the standard of God’s timing. There will be a reward at the end of the process. We have a faithful God who is true to His word. Learn to trust His timing.

Respond in obedience

Let’s not be a slave of our selfish desires. The greatest enemy that we could ever have is ourselves. There will be moments where we will need to choose between our bodies crave and the instruction of God. God says, there must never be a hint of sexual immorality. Whether it is just kissing for you or any seemingly innocent, the internal struggle is the same.

God desires for His children to respond in obedience. We have the freedom of choices. But we don’t have the freedom of consequences. God is the source of wisdom. He knows very well what is good from what is not. He is expert in knowing what may hurt us from what is not. Have you seen a parent who loves a child so much and gives instruction to jump on a cliff? Would you think a parent who loves his/her child would do that? What more our God? Our God’s greatest pleasure is to enjoy the fullness of life. Jesus came to save us to live our lives to the full. And if there is the best person to follow, it’s Jesus our Lord.

Ask yourself, is this really the right time? Is this the time where I have the blessings of God? Is everything around you gives you peace of mind and assurance? The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Even if you feel it is so right but you know that it’s not the right time according to God’s standards, then think first before you end up losing your virginity.

Be Content While You Wait for the Right Time

Enjoy your season. Be content with what you have now. Be grateful to what is given to you for now. Anyone who is faithful with little will be blessed with much.

Fill yourself with God’s love. It’s the best way to experience contentment and satisfaction. When we start to secure our lives with the word of God, it will serve as our weapon every time we are weak with our own desires.

On Marrying The Man God Made for You

God has His will when it comes to marrying. Whether you like it or not, there will be someone who will choose to marry you and spend the rest of his/her life with you in His time. It is in the place of obedience you can find God’s blessings.

As you trust God to wait on Him, I am sure God has prepared your partner to be the best for you. Maybe not perfect but the best for you. As you go about the truth that God loves you and He will give you the best, have you also thought that God loves your partner the same as He loves you? God also wants the best for your partner.

Be A Blessing to the One You’re Marrying

Your spouse deserves the best. One of the problems why people easily give their virginity (especially women) is because they don’t know exactly what their partner, who will marry them, deserves. If you will set your eyes on the moment you will marry that someone who really loves you and who will really fight for you, you would know that the person deserves your best. Yes, the one you love who will truly commit to you in marriage deserves the best from you.

Your virginity is a very precious thing that you may give to your spouse. Take care of it. Reserve it for your spouse. Set your eyes on that kind of response and not on your own temporary selfish desires. Satan knows exactly what is good. And he’s working 24 hours, seven days a week to steal the good things God is blessing you with.

He is serious with His work. We always pray for God’s best in our lives. But have we prayed and asked God to make us the best person for our spouse? Are we preparing to be an answer to our spouse’s prayer? So if you think your spouse deserves it, don’t lose virginity in a thoughtless way.

Your Spouse Deserves the Best

Do you believe that your spouse deserves the best and not what is remained? If you love to have sex during your singleness, would you tell your spouse all the names of men/women who have slept with you? Whenever you have visitors coming to your house, what do you serve them? You serve them the best menu you have in your house. Or maybe you will even prepare and cook for them.

You will not serve them leftovers on the day of their visit. Right? What about the person who will fight for you, who will wait for you and decide to be with you for the rest of his/her life? Doesn’t he deserve to have what is best and not the leftover? Our spouse deserves to enjoy the best sex God offers. If we will set our minds that our spouse deserves the best, it will be a great motivation to keep our virginity before marriage.

Some Thoughts About Marrying

Do you want to serve your virginity as a precious gift to your spouse? Give time to pray for yourself to be a blessing to your future spouse. In what ways do you consider yourself a blessing to your future spouse?

Love a Man Who Will Treat You like a Queen

Choosing a man to love reflects your personal walk with God. As a woman of faith, protecting your body is one of the things that gives delight to the Lord. The right man will honor your dignity. All others will use your body and tell you that it is an act of love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

– 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

This verse on the scripture is a good way to know whether a man is right for you or not. Some parents advice their daughters to replace the first word of every sentence with the name of the man they want. Does it sound fitting? Do you agree with every sentence? God wants you to spend your life with that man if he fits into the description.

Do Not Love A Married Man

You will meet a lot of people along your journey in this life. You may even meet a man who is married. Do not make the mistake of getting close to him. Guard your heart all the time so you don’t end up being deceived. The sad truth about this world is that adultery and fornication are justified in our society. It is very easy for others to throw away their marriage vows. They abandon their spouse when they are no longer happy. Worse, they have the heart to deceive their spouse. But having a relationship with a married man is not the only thing that single women must avoid. You also must not engage in sexual relations with a man outside of marriage. Remember, God has a commandment on this. God tells us something about sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 6:18. He says “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.”

God Will Give You The Right Man to Love At The Right Time

There is no need to hurry in love. Everyone goes through the seasons of life at different paces. Do not compare your journey with your friends, relatives, or colleagues. God has prepared your own unique love story. He will give you the right man to love in His own time. You just have to stay faithful and continue to live the kind of life that is pleasing to the Lord. Protect your body from anyone who will try to stain your dignity. The right man who will come at the right time will walk side-by-side with you in serving God. This is going to be the best gift you’ll ever receive – a God-fearing husband who will love you gently and treat you like a queen!