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Relationship Matters: Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband

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One of the most important relationship matters is showing respect to each other as husband and wife. As a wife, this comes in the form of speaking appropriately to your husband. Remember, your words draw your husband either near or far from you.

Respect Is One Among Many Relationship Matters to Work On

“Let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” – Ephesians 5:33

Did you know that there are husbands who would choose respect over love? This isn’t really surprising, considering that men have deep, innate need for respect. On the other hand, us, women, have a strong need for love. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs who is the author of the book Love and Respect backs these up.

According to him, a wife who feels unloved will act disrespectfully toward her husband. In return, a husband who feels disrespected will act unlovingly toward his wife. This is a cycle that can go on if one will not put down his or her pride.

Perhaps, you may ask, “Isn’t respect earned?” While this holds true in life, the Bible is very particular with God’s commandment on wives respecting their husbands. In 1 Peter 3, the Bible says, “Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.”

Another verse is the Ephesians 5:33,  where Apostle Paul writes, “Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

How You Can Show Respect to Your Husband

There are many ways to show respect to your husband. These include:

1. Speaking highly of him

Never belittle your husband in front of your friends, family, or colleagues. This will make him feel incapable and incompetent. Instead, practice speaking highly of him. Highlight his good qualities so other people in your circle will respect him too.

2. Giving him encouraging words

Be the wind beneath his sails. As his wife, you are his first and greatest source of hope and motivation. By trusting his leadership skills and abilities, you are encouraging him to do more. Phrases like “I trust you”, “I believe in you”, “You can do it”, etc. are somewhat synonymous to “I love you”. Appreciation also goes a long way, so always remember to say “Thank you” to your husband.

3. Serving him

Actions speak louder than words and this is also true when it comes to respecting your husband. Besides uttering words that show respect, you can also back it up with acts of love. Service can be in the form of making meals for him, arranging his things for work, etc.

4. Allowing God to be the enforcer

There will be many instances when you will have opposing opinions. While you are free to speak your mind, remember that you cannot change your husband’s viewpoint. You cannot also change his decisions on certain matters. When this happens, let God move his hands into your marriage. Pray for your husband so that he will hear your thoughts and decide wisely.

Respecting Your Husband Shows Your Respect to God

When you show respect to your husband no matter what his shortcomings are, you are also showing respect to God. You are living a life that is pleasing to Him. You are following His commandments to wives like you, and this is something that will ensure peace and love in your marriage.

Marriage Tips: The Value of Appreciation

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One of the best marriage tips that I can give is to realize the value of appreciation in the relationship. Unfortunately, we get too busy with our lives that we fail to appreciate what other people do for us. The same is the case with our spouse. We get so used to each other’s presence and often take for granted the small acts of love that our spouse does. Believe me, this is not a good relationship habit…

Marriage Tips: Acknowledge the Missing Element In Your Relationship

We all have needs and wants. I am definitely certain that as a wife, you also desire appreciation from your husband. Whether you are a housewife or a career woman, you get more inspired to do what you do when showered with appreciation. However, “proximity breeds apathy”, they say. As we spend more time with each other, we become less and less appreciative. We often lose sight of the best that we have and forget to appreciate the most important person in our lives.

This is a temptation we all face and a season we all go through. As life makes us busy, we fail to communicate with our spouse and see the good in them. We oversee the contributions of the other in making our lives together better. While we all feel guilty about it, this should not be a permanent thing in marriage. So, what should you do? Whether you are the one who desires for appreciation or the one who needs to give it more, be the bigger person to acknowledge the absence of it in your relationship.

Marriage Tips: How to Cultivate Appreciation for Each Other

As a wife and a mother, we keep our family knitted together. It is part of our responsibilities to ensure a healthy home for everyone. And it starts with being good examples when it comes to cultivating a culture of appreciation. Now, how do we create a loving and appreciative marriage that our kids would want to follow someday? The answer is fairly simple – let us be the first to be generous in giving consistent, genuine appreciation to our spouse.

There are many simple ways to show appreciation to our spouse, which include:

Empathizing with them

Does it seem like your spouse had a bad day at work? Ask them about their day without being too pushy. And as you do, hand them over their slippers and changing clothes and offer water or coffee. This will make them feel that you care about their feelings.

Listening to them

Listening is an integral aspect of any relationship. During times when you have different views and opinions, take time to listen to your spouse. It is not always necessary to argue and prove your point. Most of the time, all you have to do is listen to each other and make a sound decision later.

Forgiving them

A lasting marriage is about forgiving each other all the time. You are both human and you both commit mistakes and shortcomings. Forgiveness surely is an act of love and appreciation.

Saying thank you often

No matter how little or how big your spouse’s effort is, always remember to say thank you. It means a lot for the other.

Enjoying their company

What better way to show your appreciation than in action? When your spouse sees that you enjoy their company and appreciate what they do, they become more motivated and inspired. You’ll be surprised to see them do the things that make you happy more often.

Serving them

Service is definitely another sure sign of appreciation. It is like a subtle way of saying thank you for their hard work and love.

Marriage Tips: Appreciation Is A Vital Aspect of Marriage

Appreciation is like a fairy dust in marriage. It makes the relationship even more beautiful and more meaningful. Now, if you’re becoming more critical of your spouse instead of being more appreciative, seek God’s intervention. Ask Him to show you the things that seem invisible to you. Remember, appreciation is one important aspect that builds up your marriage. Express your gratefulness to your spouse often and you’ll witness how a simple “thank you” goes a long way.

The Power of Choice in Discovering Your Higher Self

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The power of choice determines our growth and freedom. Every single day, we have the chance to choose. When we exercise the power of choice, we hold ourselves responsible for our choices. We are able to consciously decide so that we are not blaming others for the outcome of our choices.

We All Have the Power of Choice

How many times have you heard others or yourself say, “I don’t have a choice”? Most of us are guilty of this. I, myself, also used to say this a lot until I learned to own my choices. The truth is that we always have a choice. This is the only thing we have even when we face life’s biggest challenges…

The 4 Choices We Have in Life

Next time you say you don’t have a choice, breathe for a moment and think. In between the stimulus and your response is a space that allows you to make a choice. Here are the 4 choices we all have at any given circumstance.

1. Stay in the belief of “I don’t have a choice” and always become the victim

Whenever you say “I don’t have a choice”, you are already choosing to be the victim. You are giving up control of your life to people or circumstances. It is like living your life on auto-pilot because you have made a choice and now couldn’t get out of it. I am telling you, this can be really energy-draining and disempowering. Soon enough, it will take its toll on your health and well-being.

2. Make a new option or agreement

It totally makes sense to stick to the original agreement. However, at times, creating a new one is the best option for all parties. Can you extend the deadline? Can you work out the price? Is there any other way you can achieve your desired outcome? Always think of a win-win solution.

3. Seek help from others

Pride often gets in the way of getting what we truly deserve. You have to start discovering alternative resources to broaden your choices. Think about duplicating yourself or delegating your workload to other team members. Are there any other resources you haven’t tapped?

4. Enjoy and accept your original choice

Now, this is the most challenging choice anyone could have. When you choose to stick with your original choice, it requires your commitment to changing the way you see it. I am not telling you to pretend but to develop a new perspective of your original choice so you re-learn to embrace and enjoy it.

The Power of Choice and Your Higher Self

Once you take ownership of your choices, you empower yourself more. You overcome your fears. You discover the strengths you never knew existed. This, in turn, makes you feel good about yourself. You live your life with happiness and inner peace. It is all about changing your old-age belief that you don’t have a choice…

Requisites for a Successful Relationship

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A successful relationship between a man and a woman involves a lot of factors. Both the man and the woman have equal contributions to it. The most important of these factors is having a proper self-image. A lot of us often overlook this truth. Many fail to realize that the way they see themselves has a huge effect on their relationship.

How Proper Self-Image Builds a Successful Relationship

Having a proper self-image means having a positive attitude towards yourself and others. It means appreciating your worth while behaving responsibly with those around you. It is more of having self-respect than being self-absorbed. However, just like any other skill, developing a proper self-image also takes time and practice.

Now, how does proper self-image help build a successful relationship? When you have a proper self-image, you are able to display a positive attitude and treat your partner well. Here are some ways that a proper self-image helps build a successful relationship:

  • You don’t criticize, blame, or shame your partner
  • You accept your partner as they are
  • You know how to praise and appreciate your partner genuinely
  • You know that mistakes are part of life and that the important thing is that you are both willing to change

Tips to Develop a Proper Self-Image

You first have to change the way you think about yourself before you can change your circumstances. Positive thinking helps you see yourself honestly and accept and love yourself. It helps you remove your internal barriers so you can start doing your best.

Here are some tips to develop a positive self-image:

  • Shake off negative thoughts
  • Highlight your strengths and assets
  • Accept your flaws and mistakes then move on and correct them
  • Encourage yourself more
  • Accept that some things are beyond your control
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Take a break regularly so you don’t feel burnt out
  • Believe that you can do the things you pray for
  • Learn to forgive and forget

You see, when you have a proper self-image, you see the person you love the same way you see yourself. And this is what helps build a successful relationship. Of course, on top of it all, putting God at the center of your relationship is truly what will make it successful.

Love Yourself to Attract The Kind of Man You Deserve

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“Love yourself” is a saying that is easier said than done. We, ladies, tend to give too much of ourselves to the people we love. In return, we end up not saving enough for ourselves. However, there is a reason why you must learn to love yourself. Even the Bible has something to say about it. It totally makes perfect sense for it to be #2 on the 10 Commandments for Women.

For no one has ever hated his own body, but he nourishes and tenderly cares for it, as the Messiah does the church. -Ephesians 5:29

How You Love Yourself Will Set Your Standards

Showing people how you love yourself sets your standards. It cues them how to treat you. This also applies to attracting the kind of man that you deserve. Don’t be deceived though because there is more to loving yourself than the physical side.

To love yourself means to nurture your whole being. You look after your physical body, your mind, and your spirituality. These are all interwoven. If you only focus on taking care of your physical beauty, then a man won’t love you beyond that. You will attract men who will only love your pretty face or your body. This is not how you are supposed to be loved.

Good men care more than just about the physical. They desire a beautiful mind, a good heart, and a nurtured spirit. They want a woman who they can have clever conversations with. Someone who carries a heart that always gives, understands, forgives, and loves unconditionally is a priceless treasure for a man. They want somebody who gives utmost importance to her faith. This is an assurance that their walk with the Lord is always a top priority in their relationship. These qualities attract the right man for you to marry.

Love a Man Who Will Treat You like a Queen

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Choosing a man to love reflects your personal walk with God. As a woman of faith, protecting your body is one of the things that gives delight to the Lord. The right man will honor your dignity. All others will use your body and tell you that it is an act of love.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

– 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

This verse on the scripture is a good way to know whether a man is right for you or not. Some parents advice their daughters to replace the first word of every sentence with the name of the man they want. Does it sound fitting? Do you agree with every sentence? God wants you to spend your life with that man if he fits into the description.

Do Not Love A Married Man

You will meet a lot of people along your journey in this life. You may even meet a man who is married. Do not make the mistake of getting close to him. Guard your heart all the time so you don’t end up being deceived. The sad truth about this world is that adultery and fornication are justified in our society. It is very easy for others to throw away their marriage vows. They abandon their spouse when they are no longer happy. Worse, they have the heart to deceive their spouse. But having a relationship with a married man is not the only thing that single women must avoid. You also must not engage in sexual relations with a man outside of marriage. Remember, God has a commandment on this. God tells us something about sexual immorality in 1 Corinthians 6:18. He says “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.”

God Will Give You The Right Man to Love At The Right Time

There is no need to hurry in love. Everyone goes through the seasons of life at different paces. Do not compare your journey with your friends, relatives, or colleagues. God has prepared your own unique love story. He will give you the right man to love in His own time. You just have to stay faithful and continue to live the kind of life that is pleasing to the Lord. Protect your body from anyone who will try to stain your dignity. The right man who will come at the right time will walk side-by-side with you in serving God. This is going to be the best gift you’ll ever receive – a God-fearing husband who will love you gently and treat you like a queen!